Society tells us we should discover our passion, find our purpose, identify that “one thing” we’re meant to do. But what if the journey itself is the point? What if constantly evolving, shifting, and adapting isn’t a sign of being lost—but rather the path itself? Through finding purpose through systems, we can embrace this journey with structure and intention.
If you’ve ever felt like you were supposed to “find your thing” by now, I get it. I’ve moved from military service to education to building Reset & Realign. Each transition taught me something valuable. Each shift brought new perspectives. And while I once viewed this as evidence I hadn’t found my “true calling,” I’m beginning to see it differently: What if the goal isn’t finding one perfect thing, but creating systems that allow us to thrive wherever we land? I’ve found that through structure and intention, we can build a framework that gives our lives meaning—even when the direction feels uncertain.
The Expectation vs. Reality Gap
To be honest—I’ve done what was expected. Made sensible choices. Built financial stability. From the outside looking in, things appear successful.
Yet there’s was this persistent disconnect between the life I’ve built and how I felt about it. Not that I’m struggling—I earn well and have never faced financial instability. But something feels misaligned.
The challenging part? I’m still defining what alignment would actually look like.
How Paths Unfold
Career wasn’t a calling for me—it was practicality. Education was fulfilling because the structure worked: I taught, students were eager to learn, and the profession commanded respect. The simplicity created space for joy, and I started finding purpose through systems that helped maintain balance.
Those first eight years in education held that same satisfaction. I felt genuine passion for my students and showing up each day. But as policies changed and demands increased without proportional resources, teaching began feeling more like an obligation than a calling.
The Complexity of Staying
It was not for lack of trying that I haven’t transitioned. Despite years of teaching experience, demonstrating transferable skills proved challenging. The job market can feel impenetrable at times.
And unlike those with a clear alternative dream, I didn’t have an obvious next step pulling me forward.
Walking away from stability without clarity feels imprudent. The salary, the years invested in the system—these weren’t small considerations.
Beyond Just Work
This pattern extends beyond career. Financial success doesn’t automatically translate to financial freedom. Knowing what’s right doesn’t guarantee taking right action. Having productivity systems doesn’t ensure consistent implementation.
Sometimes we find ourself as a spectator rather than participant in our own life, watching others seemingly figure things out while we remain caught in familiar patterns. Finding purpose through systems means empowering ourselves to break that cycle.
Moving Forward Without Perfect Clarity
I don’t have a neatly packaged solution.
But I’ve realized:
- I no longer want to postpone living while waiting for perfect clarity.
- I’m ready to step from observer to active participant in my own story.
- I’m committed to movement, even without a precisely mapped destination.
You’re Not Alone
If you’re in midlife wondering how you’re still figuring things out—you have plenty of company. That’s precisely why I created Reset & Realign: a space for those of us needing both structure and flexibility, who require built-in reset options because perfect consistency isn’t our reality.
Perhaps the objective isn’t having all answers, but to build systems that help us keep moving—especially when things feel unclear. Reset & Realign wasn’t built for those who have everything figured out—it’s for those navigating step by step, restart after restart.
If you’re ready to stop waiting for clarity and start building momentum, I invite you to explore the systems I’ve created. From planners designed for ADHD decision paralysis to money tools that ditch the shame and actually work for our brains—you’ll find resources here that meet you where you are. This will help in finding purpose through systems tailored to your needs.
If you’re ready to stop waiting for clarity and start building momentum, I invite you to explore the systems I’ve created. From planners designed for ADHD decision paralysis to money tools that ditch the shame and actually work for our brains—you’ll find resources here that meet you where you are.
These systems didn’t come out of nowhere.
I’ve spent years researching and experimenting—reading every ADHD article I could find, diving into psychology, and mapping out dozens of frameworks to help manage my impulsive and indecisive nature.
And if you’re anything like me, I’d love to share what I’ve learned—so you can design a life that feels aligned, flexible, and truly yours.
Because life doesn’t need to be perfect before you begin. It just needs movement.
